Tallit for a Wedding: Choosing a Chatan's Tallit
In many Ashkenazi families, the groom receives his first tallit gadol as a gift, often from the bride's family, and begins wearing it after the wedding. In some communities a tallit is also used under the chuppah. Most grooms choose a full-size wool tallit, and many also wear a white kittel under the chuppah.
Wedding tallit customs
- The gift. In many Ashkenazi families the bride's family gives the groom his tallit before the wedding.
- When he starts wearing it. Many Ashkenazi men begin wearing a tallit gadol after marriage.
- Under the chuppah. In some communities, especially Sephardi, a tallit is spread over the couple or worn by the groom.
- The kittel. Many Ashkenazi grooms wear a white kittel under the chuppah.
Customs vary, so follow your family's practice or ask your rabbi.
Choosing the chatan's tallit
| Decision | Most popular choice |
|---|---|
| Material | Wool, with a non-slip Tashbetz weave |
| Size | A full-size tallit matched to his height |
| Tying | His family's custom: Ashkenazi, Sephardi or Chabad |
| Style | Classic black or blue stripes, or white on white |
For the chatan
Mishkan HaTekhelet Non-Slip TallitFrom $160.00
Mofet Modim Wool TallitFrom $149.00
Orthodox Jewish KittelFrom $68.99
Frequently asked questions
Who buys the groom's tallit?
In many Ashkenazi families, the bride's family gives the groom his tallit as a wedding gift. Customs vary between families.
Does the groom wear a tallit under the chuppah?
In some communities, especially Sephardi, a tallit is used under the chuppah. Many Ashkenazi grooms wear a kittel. Follow your family's custom.
What tallit should a groom choose?
Most grooms choose a full-size wool tallit, often with a non-slip weave, in a size matched to their height.
Do you sell kittels for the wedding?
Yes. VeAhavta sells classic white kittels in sizes XS to XXXL. Orders ship the same business day from our US warehouse, and US shipping is free over $85.